[[ 87 ]] Physics

I see it this way...

ABUNDANCE = CHOICE = INDEPENDENCE = FREEDOM

SCARCITY = CONSTRAINT = DEPENDENCY = CONTROL

Some people express a need to explore and challenge the boundaries of life. Those who want you to have more choices as well, can speak clearly of it – including its limitations and any potential consequences. They are compelled to ask that you act responsibly with your privileges.

They understand that there will not always be agreement, but can accept your non-confrontational acts as mere variation of options– without the need to demonize or feel threatened.

Some people express a need to focus and enforce the boundaries of life. Those who want you to have fewer choices as well, tend to obfuscate that fact by any means possible - promising rewards later for your surrender, obedience and conformity now. They are compelled to ask that you obtain your privileges through acts they deem responsible.

When they do not agree with your choices, even your non-confrontational acts are demonized, because they see any real variation of options as a threat.

To express a fear of other people having more choice is to assume that given the opportunity- everyone is a monster. 

Really? How terrifying then, the world you live in and project!

How unsatisfying and pitiful your suffering has left you, even in the midst of all this amazing kindness.

- C.D.

[[ 86 ]] DON'T PANIC. (LOVE IS A HUMAN EXPERIENCE...)

[[ 86 ]] LOVE IS A HUMAN EXPERIENCE...
                 --- not a religious right or a political statement.

Marriage Equality will return it to that basic state.

It wasn't social fodder because gays had an 'agenda' - it became that because Group-A wanted to deny Group-B equal privilege, and Group-C wanted to use the angst this created as an opportunity to manipulate votes.
So Group-B had to defend themselves. That's all.

In 1967 the Supreme Court legalized interracial marriage in the United States.
It's been 48 years since then, and in most places - people just don't make a big fuss anymore when they see a mixed race couple.

So... it's not unreasonable to think that
      -- in less than a generation.... gay marriage is likely to fade from social relevance.

Worry not. Some other challenge will rise to take its place: religions need people to demonize and politicians prey on causes. Perhaps the Next Big Controversy will be the legalization of marijuana? Maybe the nation's commitment to clean energy and self-driving cars? Or perhaps, the right for poly families to legally recognize their marriages too?
Whatever it is, the same players will take the same sides.
There will be setbacks and great strife, followed by progress and growth.

Don't Panic. This is the story of Humanity. 

- C.D.


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Please enjoy this smart and moving video, beautifully expressing the legalization of fair treatment.

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Now.... as for this - -

Oh?  Fine.  GAME ON. 

If that's what you're really fighting for, dudes - please let me know so the misogynist in me can consider joining your ranks!

- C.D.

*And by 'let me know', I mean don't call me.

MEANWHILE, SOMEWHERE IN THE WORLD -- - 

Other people are guilty of loving each other in new and unexpected ways...

oh. the horror. 

[[ 85 ]] DRUGS, SEX AND ORGIES EVERY THURSDAY NIGHT.

*Mmmyeahh... no.  This isn't what it's like.  


I don't think it's any mystery that single people and monogamous couples have a lot of misperceptions about people like myself, who choose to be in 'poly' relationships.  And why not?  The media spins polyamory to look like an irresponsible buffet of sexual delights. The religious right demonizes it... even though it was fine in the Bible. And among poly-folk, relationships come in a variety of sizes and configurations.
Honestly, there's plenty to NOT understand....

Marie, Rika and I prefer a policy of polyfidelity; we are exclusive to one another. However, even though our relationship shares some relevant aspects with monogamy, the speculations about us are no less outrageous. And often.... pretty lame.

Sorry to disappoint those seeking drama and scandal, but frankly -- -we're pretty standard. We live in suburbia, have white-collar jobs and are about as far as you can get from 'hedonistic, drug-smoking, yoga-Vegan, free-love hippies'.
Although.... we do sorta' like those people! Heh.

So Rika decided she wanted to respond to some of the most frequently assed asked questions about poly relationships. And by 'frequently' she means almost never? Not to our faces, anyhow.
There's a lot of really stupid speculations that people will make behind our backs...  but to tell the truth - we get it. 

We wouldn't walk up to you and ask how many times a week you have sex either. 

So no worries...  we ain't mad at ya.

But -- true to the poly way, we believe that most ignorance and fear can be dispelled with good communication!  That, and a strong dose of common sense.

Please visit Rika's page to hear her thoughts on some of the questions that are too hot to handle and possibly NSFW. She just began a series on the topic, leading with an article delightfully titled ---

Why Poly? Couldn't you find your OWN man?

Hoo-boy...

 - C.D.

*** Also visit KimchiCuddles, who creates very cute and insightful comics which beautifully illustrate the joy, challenges and wonders of this thing called LOVE!  kimchicuddles.com



What it really IS like...   =)